As a coach I find it extremely helpful to have a toolbox of personal change and development tools to help clients overcome their fears, limiting beliefs and obstacles on their coaching journey. Sometimes, talking is just not enough! This page lists the tools and techniques I use and provides more in depth information about these.
Mind Detox™ is an truly amazing, transformational technique which helps you to ‘change your mind’ and ‘change your relationship with your mind’ in order to feel peaceful and content now. Mind Detox™ helps you find and resolve the root cause reasons behind physical conditions, fears/phobias, beliefs, emotions and behaviours so you are free to move on and live a happier, healthier life.
Tune into your mind for a moment by noticing your thoughts. The ones you can ‘hear’ exist in what’s called your conscious mind. However, there is also a level of your mind that operates below the surface of consciousness. Your unconscious mind performs many remarkable tasks without you having to be aware of any of it happening, including storing your memories, healing your body, creating your emotions and driving your habits and behaviours.
More often than not, the sources and causes of your physical conditions and life problems exist within the realms of your unconscious mind. This can make them very difficult to find and fix – unless you know how. The Mind Detox™ method, created by author and therapist, Sandy Newbigging, uses simple but effective questioning and NLP techniques to help you find the hidden “unconscious” causes of your problems and then resolve them. By resolving the reasons why your problems have existed up until now, your problems have no alternative but to disappear for good. Imagine that!
The mind-body-world connection…
A commonly held misconception in the western world is that the mind and body are separate entities – that there are physical problems and there are emotional problems. However, the mind and body are very much one entity. Emotional problems can show up as physical problems. When you change your mind, your body responds accordingly because the mind and body are both connected and in constant communication with each other.
When you speak to yourself, the 50-70 trillion cells that make up your body hear AND respond accordingly. Your body has an influence on your mind, and, equally, your mind affects your body. It does so seamlessly and subtly every moment of every day. Not only that, but researchers have also been able to prove that your thoughts and feelings affect your ‘external’ world too! Your mind is very much like a magnet, constantly pulling into your life all the people, places, events and things that reflect your emotionally-fuelled beliefs, intentions and expectations.
Most people, most of the time, unintentionally block their health and happiness with “out-of-date mind programming”. By detoxing your mind blocks you can more easily experience the levels of peace, happiness, health, wealth and vitality that are not only your most natural way of being, but your birthright as a human being.
Emotional Freedom Technique
Emotional Freedom Technique, commonly abbreviated to EFT, is a powerful healing technique which is easily taught and extremely empowering for clients.
Essentially, it is a very effective yet gentle method of stimulating the body’s energy system to release negative emotions and restore balance – a bit like clearing a log that’s blocking a stream where the log represents a stuck emotion in your stream of energy.
The energy system refers to the meridians, which are used in Chinese Acupuncture. These are energy channels that are connected to all of your major organs and run throughout the body. When an acupuncturist works on a patient, they adjust the energy with the use of needles. In EFT the same thing is done but thankfully without the needles. Instead your fingers are used to tap on certain points.
Where it all started…
EFT was developed in the US in the 1990’s by Gary Craig and has its roots in acupuncture, kinesiology and psychology. It is now spreading very rapidly in the US and in the UK, where the concept is now used in some specialist areas of the National Health Service.
“Some day the medical profession will wake up and realize that unresolved emotional issues are the main cause of 85% of all illnesses. When they do, EFT will be one of their primary healing tools …. as it is for me.” – Eric Robins, MD
“EFT offers great healing benefits.” Deepak Chopra, MD
What does EFT involve?
Using EFT involves ‘tuning into’ the issue and then tapping with your fingers on specific acupressure points with your fingers. For example if you still carry anger towards someone who has hurt you in the past, you would be asked to think about them, and notice how you feel. But you do not have to relive past events. You just have to be aware that the negative feeling is there. Having therefore ‘tuned in’ to it, you are shown which acupressure points to tap, and what words to say as you do so. (Saying a few things also helps to disperse the emotion from the system).
Having done that you are then asked to think about the person or situation again and check how you feel. Typically you will notice a significant reduction in the intensity of the feeling. If it’s not completely gone you repeats the process, bringing the intensity down each time until full balance is restored.
All this is done while sitting normally in a chair.
After EFT do feelings return?
Following an EFT session, the dispelled feelings very rarely return. If they do this implies that there is a bit more work to do. Of course you can still feel angry, fearful or guilty about other things, and it might be appropriate to do so, but if you have thoroughly used EFT for a specific issue, the feeling will not return. Once you have sent the problem ‘downstream’, it does not come back up.
You may still retain the memory of the event you were working on but it will no longer have the emotional charge that it had before. The other thing to say is that there may be more than one emotion that needs to cleared, like more than one log jamming the stream. So using our example there might be the anger towards the person, but also other emotions such as guilt or sadness. All of these can be addressed separately, and often when you start to disperse one emotion the intensity of others can start reducing straight away.
Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP)
Neuro-linguistic programming, NLP, is the study of the mind and how we think (Neurology), how we use language and how it affects us (Linguistics) and how we sequence our actions to achieve our goals (Programming). NLP provides tools and skills for the development of states of individual excellence, but it also establishes a system of empowering beliefs and presuppositions about what human beings are, what communication is and what the process of change is all about.